Have you ever wondered why some people seem to command attention when they speak, while others—no matter how intelligent or important their message—struggle to be heard?
The difference often comes down to communication. It should not come as a surprise that the way we express ourselves shapes how others perceive us and, ultimately, how they treat us, but for some reason many people aren’t mindful of the impact of how they communicate.
I’m sure you’ve been in meetings in which one colleague presents their idea or proposal clearly, concisely, and confidently, while another, who is just as smart, struggles to get the words out, uses language that is either too technical or not specific enough and might go too far into the weeds, losing the audience. Who leaves a stronger impression?
This isn't about charisma—it’s about effective communication. Our vocabulary, tone, and how we structure our sentences send signals about who we are and how seriously we should be taken. It’s like the difference between a carefully composed email and one that is hastily written and filled with typos. Even if the message is the same, the delivery affects how others will respond.
For many introverts, speaking up and delivering a clear, concise message can feel daunting. But here’s the thing: communication is a learned skill, not an inherent trait. By working to improve how we communicate—whether by making more thoughtful word choices, using clearer grammar, or taking care to structure our message—we can shift how others see us. The clearer and more confident we sound, the more respect and consideration we earn in return.
Whether you're in a meeting or one-on-one with your boss, not just what you say, but the way you say it will influence how you’re perceived and how others respond.
So, how can you sharpen your communication skills to make sure you’re perceived the way you want to be?
Be intentional with your words: Choose specific vocabulary that aligns with your message and is accessible to your audience. Simple, direct language is often the most powerful.
Structure matters: Whether it’s a conversation, an email, or a presentation, make sure your ideas have a logical flow. General to specific, past to present.
Match your delivery to your audience: Knowing when to be formal or casual can impact how your message lands.
In my communication coaching, I help professionals—many of whom are introverts—develop the skills they need to improve how they’re perceived and treated in the workplace.
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