Why Talking A Lot Doesn’t Necessarily Mean You’re Communicating Well

The Missing Skill that Separates Leaders Who Speak a lot from Impactful Ones

You may have been told you’re a good speaker.

Someone who expresses ideas well and knows their subject inside and out. You’re talkative and confident.

That should mean you’re a great communicator, right?

Not necessarily.

Here’s the problem:

Many professionals confuse speaking a lot with being articulate.

But they aren’t the same thing.

The False Equation: Talking = Effective Communication

Many high-achieving leaders equate “communication skills” with how well they present to an audience.

They assume:

If I articulate my ideas from my point of view, people will get on board.

If I share a lot of information, I’ll sound knowledgeable.

If I’m the leader, I should always be talking.

But here’s what often happens instead:

• The message isn’t interpreted the same way by everyone.

• Listeners tune out, confused or overwhelmed.

• Dialogue becomes a monologue.

The real tragedy is leaders miss the chance to truly connect and influence.

What Is the Missing Ingredient for Effective Communication?

Good communicators and good leaders don’t just speak.

They also listen.

Good communicators listen for the unspoken. They watch behavior and notice what’s not being said. They ask themselves, “How is my message landing?” and adjust accordingly.

Listening is where connection is created.

It’s how trust is built. It’s how collaboration deepens.

Being quiet and listening is what helps you read the room and lead in the moment.

If You Want to Lead with Real Impact…

Shift your definition of communication.

It’s not just how much you talk. It’s how well you listen to understand and respond to be understood.

Try this:

After you speak in a meeting, pause and invite feedback: “How is this landing?” ”What are you thinking?”

In 1:1s, intentionally spend more time listening than talking.

Before jumping in with your viewpoint, ask clarifying questions and let others speak. Your opinion should be the last one given.

Speaking a lot might get attention.

But listening and being attuned to what others say earns respect.